Half term is in full swing, I’ve got all 4 of our little darlings and we’re all still alive…. that’s a victory in my eyes 😂
seriously though, the biggest 3 spent all day yesterday playing so nicely together that it made my heart melt a little…. they all adore each other (at least some of the time) and to be honest I don’t think we can ask for much more than that…. I’d be concerned if they were the best of friends all of the time (Though a little more often certainly wouldn’t go amiss!!)
Today though my biggest boy has made me very proud, the day started with an appointment for him that he REALLY doesn’t like…. that generally means tears beforehand and him being in a foul mood…. today was no exception! Trying to get out of the house with him this morning wasn’t exactly fun for anybody… in fact even getting him out of bed this morning was so much like hard work I could’ve quite easily dragged him out by his hair 😂
However, after all of that drama, middle boy (it still feels weird not calling him littlest boy 😬) was upset, and his big brother has spent all afternoon doing anything he can to cheer him up – he’s been to the shop and bought him sweets, and is now humouring him with a game of “building a den and turning it into a chocolate museum”… the pair of them have been hidden underneath the dining table cuddled up and giggling away to themselves for the past 2 hours…. it’s moments like this that make all the shite parts of parenthood disappear, watching him comfort and entertain his little brother when there’s probably a million things he’d rather be doing make it all worthwhile….
It’s times like these that make me take a step back and see just how lucky I am, we’ve created our own little army of strong willed, crazy, loud, hard work, frustrating, exhausting little people…. and half of the time their arguments, the constant bickering and fighting makes me want to cry….. but then out of nowhere, one of these perfect little moments comes along and makes me so proud of them, because they might be every single one of those characteristics…. in fact they most definitely are….They’re far from perfect and some days I would kill for half an hours break…
BUT they’re also fiercely protective of each other, loyal, loving and caring – we just don’t step back enough to see that everyday in the craziness of daily life…… we’re usually too wrapped up in hectic day to day stuff to stop for long enough and notice the little things…. im normally too busy shouting at them to get shoes on and brush their teeth… or like last night for example….frantically trying to cook their tea with littlest man attached to my boob whilst shouting through the house for them all to get changed and fill their drink bottles up so that we can all get out of the house for their taekwondo lesson in time… too wrapped up in daily routines to pause for long enough to listen to the 3 biggest ones making plans for tomorrow….to listen to their laughter as they recall something funny that they all did together earlier….. to see the quick kiss they give their little brother every time they walk past…. to listen to them sneaking into each other’s rooms for a cuddle before bed…
But days like today make me stop for long enough to realise that everything is fine, that they don’t all hate each other really, and gives me hope that in years to come they’ll always have each other’s backs….That the bond between them is so strong and despite all the bickering they love each other dearly… and when it matters the most the kind, caring little traits overcome the fighting… and we can all live happily ever after for at least a few hours!!
Maybe the importance of family we go on so much about is finally filtering through to them…. either way, whatever it is, today I am proud, and I don’t want to run away yet…. thats a small victory for being halfway through half term in my eyes!!
We must be doing something right 💙